child custody

What’s the Holiday Child Possession and Visitation Schedule in Missouri?

September 2, 2019 by David Betz

Nobody likes to think about their family separating. However, the truth is that roughly 50% of U.S. children will go through their parents getting divorced.

If you and your spouse get divorced, Missouri law requires you to form an official parenting plan where you lay out the specifics about where your child will live, the school they will go to, and a visitation schedule.

This plan is generally required regardless of the type of custody you want, such as joint custody or sole custody, so make sure to discuss every detail with your St. Louis divorce attorney.

What the Schedule Should Include

The parenting plan needs to be very specific so that the courts can know their ruling will be made in the best interest of the child. As for the visiting component, the plan needs to include:

A standard schedule that shows how much time you’ll be able to spend with the child, both during the week and weekends.
A holiday schedule accounting for all major holidays, and special days like birthdays, Mother’s or Father’s Day, or other days important for the child or their family.
A schedule for all their school vacations.

Additionally, your plan should lay out which parent gets which holiday, a plan for the child’s transportation, how to handle any possible changes in the schedule, as well as how to handle contact with the child when they are residing with the other parent.

What Missouri Law Says

Missouri does not have any laws regulating what the custody visitation schedule needs to look like, but the court’s decision will be based on what’s best for the child.

Parents who create the schedule together generally will have no problem getting it approved. However, if you and your former spouse cannot agree on a fixed schedule, then the courts will establish one for you.

There are some principles the courts will follow when deciding a visiting schedule:

The child has the right to frequent visitation to spend time with both parents
Joint custody is considered as the optimal option in custody hearings. Sole custody is usually only granted when one parent is considered unfit to take care of the child
Age, sex, or financial status of the parent is not relevant in establishing the visitation schedule
The child’s best interest will ultimately be the decisional factor in these cases.

What Should You Do?

A custody issue, even when both parents agree to do it amicably, is not an easy process. Emotions tend to run high because of the delicacy of the situation. At this time, it’s best to work with a St. Louis divorce lawyer who can help you and your spouse find a middle ground regarding the holiday visitation schedule.

Your lawyer will be the objective voice throughout the entire process and have your and your child’s best interest in mind. Additionally, they can help prepare you for any custody hearings in front of a judge.

Sep 17, 2019 @ 7:29 pm

Can I Get Full Custody If My Spouse Has a Chemical Dependency?

June 4, 2019 by David Betz

The court will attempt to ensure children remain safe and provide the best possible chance of a healthy life.

With the heroin and opioid epidemic in the headlines, we have become acutely aware of chemical dependency in the last decade. The cost of life, property, and family is well known. For many this is as far as their personal experience will extend. Unfortunately, for others this is a personal narrative, either as an addict or the family of one. Worse yet, what if your spouse’s addiction is affecting the welfare of your children?

In Missouri, a parent can lose their parental rights due to substance abuse. However, the court places the highest importance on the best wishes of the child in question. Part of this includes regular and continual contact with both parents. Except in clear and present cases of danger to the child, the court is reluctant to strip a parent of their rights. They may, however, require regular drug testing, rehab, and potentially supervised visits. However, should the actions of the parent with a substance abuse problem be so egregious as to merit a question of a child’s safety, even with the above protections, the court may find no other remedy reasonable outside of terminating parental rights and giving the other parent full custody.

Termination of parental rights is not a punishment against persons fighting addiction. Instead, as is the case with all decisions the court makes regarding minors in divorce cases, it is the best wishes of the child that are of the highest paramount. The court will attempt to ensure children remain safe and provide the best possible chance of a healthy life. Should you or a loved one be facing divorce with someone suffering from addiction, contact your trusted St. Louis family law attorney. An experience Missouri lawyer will help you navigate this exceptionally hard time and provide counsel to protect your children’s best interests.

Give The Betz Law Firm a call today at (314) 801-8488 .

Jun 20, 2019 @ 5:23 pm

Child Custody in Same-Sex Marriage: Here’s What You Should Know

February 25, 2019 by David Betz

The law regarding same-sex marriage is often changing, but we can help you determine the best course of action.

A separation or divorce can be a very tough time for the parties involved, but the most affected of all always seems to be the children. For same-sex couples, things can get increasingly difficult, as their case is non-standard and subject to how a judge may interpret the law or how supportive and understanding the law is with the LGBT community.

Child custody lawsuits are often complicated because of all the emotions involved. Challenges are different for same-sex partners when they are trying to separate. The law regarding same-sex marriage is continually changing, and only a good St. Louis divorce lawyer can help you determine the best course of action.

Before You Go to Court

First of all, it’s important to mention that taking legal action is not the ideal solution. Legal custody battles are very difficult for all parties involved and especially traumatic for children. Moreover, the legislation isn’t very clear yet, and there aren’t that many cases for the authorities to draw inspiration from and take an equitable decision. Same-sex couples are still defining the path for future generations, but a courtroom is not a pleasant place and time to be revolutionary.

Ideally, you and your former partner will be able to settle outside of court, with the help of a mediator. Discuss openly and sincerely and try to find common ground for the following problems:

Legal custody – decision makers
Physical custody – where does the child live
Visitation rights
Child support

If you can agree on these things, you don’t need to go through a legal battle. But if something is giving you good reasons to fight for another arrangement, find a good St. Louis divorce attorney and ask for their legal counsel and guidance.

Missouri Law on Same-sex Separation and Custody Rights

Missouri state law recognizes the adoption made in any other state and will consider it to be the starting point for the custody agreement. If both parents adopted the child or if a non-biological parent adopted the child through second-parent action, then both of them have the right to custody.

If, on the other hand, only one of the partners is a biological parent or has legally adopted the child, there is a slim chance for the other partner to claim any legal rights over the minor. Naturally, that also absolves them from paying child support.

St. Louis Family Law Attorney

It’s a good starting point that both partners are aware of their legal requirements and rights and are working to find the best possible solution for the children involved.

The purpose of the law is to protect the most vulnerable persons involved in a separation or divorce. That can become an obstacle in more complex, grey-area cases. That is why it’s essential to contact a lawyer who specializes in custody battles.

At The Betz Law Firm we are committed to guiding our clients through the court process with same level of professionalism that we would wish for our own family members. We are aware of the trust our clients place in us with the future of their family and we strive daily to earn it.

Call us today at (314) 801-8488 or fill out our online case evaluation form.

Jun 24, 2019 @ 5:50 pm

Can My Ex-Spouse Move Away With Our Children?

January 31, 2019 by David Betz

In most cases, your ex cannot relocate with your children without your consent.

One of the worst parts about getting a divorce is seeing your children less. For those of you without custody, it can be even worse. Perhaps the worst outcome of all is your ex wanting to move away with your children. Luckily, with the help of a St. Louis divorce attorney, that shouldn’t happen.

The Distance of the Move

Many states have a range in which one spouse can move the children without giving notice. A typical amount is 50-100 miles. Missouri is different in that your spouse won’t be able to relocate at all without notifying you, even if that means going just down the street. While strict, this provision allows you to know where your children will be living at all times.

Who Has Custody?

The custody arrangement is another factor that affects whether or not your ex can move. If you have partial custody over your children, there is very little chance that your ex will be able to take them somewhere else. Even if you don’t, and only have regular visits, there is a good chance that this is the case.

Giving Notice

Depending on the circumstances, your ex must give you formal notice before moving. What this means is that a phone call or a casual letter does not suffice. Instead, it must be an official legal document. This file should include the proposed destination, the reason for the move, and a visitation plan. Additionally, it must be filed at least 60 days before the move date.

Relocation Trials

You will have 30 days to object to the move after your ex proposes it to you. After doing so, you could end up having a relocation trial. The court treats staying in the same location as the norm, so your ex’s legal team will be the one that has to argue for the move. Essentially, they must prove that the relocation is in the children’s best interest, rather than an attempt at revenge against you.

There are no precise rules for these situations, so judges make different decisions for every case. The primary factors involved will be:

the distance of the move
your custody arrangement
the motivations of both parties
what is best for the children

Contact a St. Louis Family Lawyer

If your ex is trying to relocate with your children, you no doubt want to understand your legal rights. At The Betz Law Firm, our goal is to assist families in need to navigate their way through those important, life changing events. Whether it be a divorce, relocation issues, or questions of paternity, our team of compassionate lawyers will be at your side, offering our guidance and support.

Contact The Betz Law Firm today for a free 30 minute phone consultation by calling (314) 801-8488 or by filling out our online contact form.

Jun 24, 2019 @ 5:08 pm

How to Tell Your Children About Your Divorce

November 1, 2018 by David Betz

Here are 5 tips to make telling your children about your divorce as easy as possible.

Deciding to get a divorce comes with a significant amount of tasks to complete. You may be seeking a divorce attorney, split assets, negotiate over custody, and much more. One of the hardest of those tasks is telling your children about the divorce. Here are 5 tips to make it as easy as possible.

Work Out the Logistics Beforehand

When you tell your children about your divorce, they will likely have a few logistical questions right away. They might ask you which parent will be moving out of the house, who they will live with, who will take them to school, and more. Knowing the answers to as many of these questions as possible will make your talk go much more smoothly. Though you won’t have every detail of your divorce settled, you should know what the next few weeks will look like.

Tell them as a Team

The best way to talk to your children is as a team. That way, they do not make assumptions based on which parent speaks to them first. Doing so can be difficult for some couples, as they are already at a point where they don’t want to see each other. While that emotion is fair, you should do your best to make this particular talk a team effort. If you cannot, try to make your conversation with your children about your relationship, not the faults of your former partner.

Choose a Quiet Location and Calm Time

One of the worst things you can do in this situation is to talk to your children in a public space. You never know how they are going to handle it, so it is best to have this discussion in a quiet location. The best is doing it in your home, where your children can retreat to their bedrooms if needed. Secondly, have your talk during a calm time, like a quiet weekend afternoon. You don’t want to put them through an emotional rollercoaster and then send them to school or activities. Doing so will give them time to process the news before facing the world again.

Don’t Blame Anyone

People’s natural inclination in situations like this is to blame. For a child, they will usually look to one of their parents or themselves to assign fault. You must do your best to avoid this trap. If they develop negative feelings for you or your spouse, that will splinter an important relationship. If they blame themselves, they could experience much more pain than necessary.

Keep the Details to Yourself

No matter what conditions surround your divorce, you should keep the details to yourself when talking with younger kids. This is true even if you feel that one party was clearly at fault.

Telling your children about your divorce is never easy. Still, following these tips can make it much better than the alternative.

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Jun 24, 2019 @ 5:09 pm

8 Factors that Determine Child Custody in Missouri

June 23, 2018 by David Betz

Many factors lead to the decision of who gets primary custody of the children and what type of visitation arrangements are made.

When a marriage dissolves, it is challenging enough to figure out who gets what monetarily and how each party is going to move along. When children are involved, things can quickly get complicated and overwhelming.

If you are someone who is in the process of divorcing and wondering how a judge will rule what type of custody agreement is appropriate for your particular situation, it is essential to understand what goes into determining the best interest of the child in Missouri courtrooms.

Many factors lead to the decision of who gets primary custody of the children and what type of visitation arrangements are made. But, the elements that carry the most weight in court are as follows:

What the divorcing parties agree on in their proposed parenting plan. The ideal situation is that the parents can come to a consensus about who gets custody and how time and responsibility are divided. If you have agreed on custody, then it is a huge factor that the court will consider.
The individual needs of the child to maintain a relationship with both parties and each parent’s willingness to support a meaningful relationship with their child are taken highly into consideration. The court must find that each parent functions in the role that they should in the child’s life.
The way that the family interacts is a considerable factor in the decision-making process of the courts. Siblings and other significant relationships are heavily weighted amongst the factors of who gets custody and what kind.
Which party has proven that they will foster a meaningful relationship with the other parent is critical to the decision. If it appears that one parent will make it more difficult for the child to have a good relationship with the other parent, that is not looked upon favorably by the court.
The overall way that a child will adjust to their home, community, and school if one parent is given custody rights.
The physical and emotional well-being of the child-related to who they live with and their visitation schedule.
If one parent wishes to move away, that is a significant factor in how the court will rule. Relocation is seen as a hardship for a child that is already going through a major life trauma.
If the child is old enough to speak about their concerns and voice their choice, it may be considered by the court. Usually, the child has to be at least 8 for their opinion to be critical in the decision process.

If you are divorcing and are not able to come to an agreement about who gets custody, who has the primary decision-making capability related to them, or how visitation is scheduled, the court will have to decide for you. Many factors are taken into consideration to come to a ruling, but they are based solely on the best interest of the child.

St. Louis Custody Attorneys

Our legal team recognizes the delicate nature of child custody proceedings and makes it a priority to ensure that the interests of you and your child are considered first and foremost. The idea of losing precious time with a child can be overwhelming for a parent whose primary goal is to protect their well being. We have the experience you need to help your family through these difficult times and to make sure that you are satisfied with the end result.

Call The Betz Law Firm today at (314) 801-8488 or fill out our online contact form to request a free 30-minute phone consultation.

Aug 2, 2019 @ 3:20 pm