child custody

One of the most difficult decisions a parent has to make during a divorce is setting a schedule for seeing and spending time with their child.

A few years back, a law went into effect with the purpose of encouraging judges to award equal custody time (50/50 custody.) However, some judges are hesitant, claiming that 50/50 custody isn’t in the best interest of the child. Instead, it may confuse them.

Are they right? How is equal custody different from the traditional one? And, should you ask your St. Louis divorce lawyer to push for it?

Types of 50/50 Schedules

While simple in theory, many realize that finding common ground when it comes to equal custody can be quite difficult.

Here are three types of schedules that might work best for both parents:

Every Other Week: This schedule is pretty forward: you have the kids for one week, from Sunday to Sunday while your ex-spouse will stay with them for the next. There’s just one exchange per week, which can limit the conflicts that may arise during drop off or pick up. However, if the other parent lives on the other side of town, then that might mean a longer commute to school or other extracurricular activities.

From Thursday Until Sunday: Another schedule that could work for some parents is picking up the kids on Thursday morning or after school and dropping them off on Sunday afternoon. The problem with this schedule is that one parent has to deal with the demands of a school week while the other gets to enjoy spending time with the kids during the weekend. You may alternate between weekdays and weekends so that you avoid a potential conflict.

The 2-2-3 Formula: It may look more like a math formula or code. And, granted, it’s the most complicated custody schedules of them all. According to it, children will spend two days of the week with one parent, two days with the other, and the remaining three days with the first parent. You switch it next week. It is a very demanding schedule that requires a lot of flexibility. So, if there is a lot of friction between you and your ex-spouse, then you may consider avoiding this method as you will have to see each other quite a lot. On the other hand, if you are on good terms and great at co-parenting, then this schedule can truly ensure equal custody.

What Should You Do?

Understandably, you want to spend as much time as possible with your kids. However, you don’t want to tire, confuse or frustrate them either. Discuss your options with your spouse and an experienced St. Louis divorce attorney to figure out the best solution for your case.

Custody battles are never easy. The prospects of divorce are tough on their own, but when children are involved it can make everything that much harder, both from an emotional and legal point of view.

In Missouri, the general idea that guides the custody process is that any decision made must be in the best interest of the child. For parents, especially fathers who have not been involved in the child’s life for a long time, it may be especially difficult to gain custody.

Understanding the Law

In Missouri, there is no default parenting plan. The family judge will decide on the matter based on the case in front of them, ruling what is best for the children. There is, however, a new law that encourages a 50-50 custodial share, based on the belief that children should spend an equal amount of time with both parents, even if they are divorced.

But of course, in practice, it can be difficult to have 50-50 custody. One parent may be deemed unfit to have custody, placing the child in the care of the other parent or a legal guardian, if both parents are deemed unfit.

Custody is different from visitation rights, however. A parent may not have custody of their children, but still, have the right to visitation. Sometimes the judge will even decide how frequent these visits are, and how they can occur (supervised or unsupervised).

Things Can Change

If a parent loses their custody rights, it often has to do with their inability to care for the child. Perhaps they do not have a job to support themselves or the child or are battling an addiction. Losing custody can sometimes break families apart, and the father can lose touch with his children for a while.

However, just because the judge decided one parent is fit to care for the children does not mean this will always be the case. Things can change drastically, in which case the distant father may consider re-applying for custody.

Whether they will get it greatly depends. First, it’s important to address the issue that removed their custody rights in the first place – were they resolved/improved? The judge will again question the father’s ability to care for the child.

Then, it’s important to consider if the mother or other legal guardians should lose custody. Have they put the child in danger? Is it best for the child to be removed for their environment?

Lastly, there is the question of whether the distant father is the best person to gain custody, considering they were not part of the child’s life.

What Should You Do?

When it comes to custody battles, the smallest thing can change the course of a case. One of the best things you can do is get in touch with an experienced St. Louis divorce attorney for legal guidance.