Steps to Take Before You File for Divorce

There are a number of advantages to being well prepared before filing for divorce.

Divorce is certainly not an easy process, but if you and your spouse have been through therapy and decided that it’s time to call it quits, here are a few things you should do before actually filing for divorce. Being well prepared before filing could end up saving you thousands and sparing your time.

1. Seek Counseling – Divorce is one of the most emotionally trying experiences you may ever have to go through. The complex legal proceedings and the emotional upheaval will challenge both your intellectual and mental/emotional health. In order to be able to handle this process logically and be there for any children you may have, you have to take care of your emotional health first.
2. Ensure Your Safety – Divorce is never easy, but sometimes it turns violent. If you are leaving a violent partnership work with your therapist and attorney to make a safety plan. This may include having an already furnished apartment waiting for you as soon as you file. For those with a potentially violent spouse, pick a neighborhood with good security, invest in heavy-duty locks, and make sure your former spouse does not know your address.
3. Plan for the Children – Raising children is an enormous expense and you want to make sure that they don’t end up getting shortchanged in the settlement. To do this, you need to get creative and plan for the future of your child. Do you envision them attending private high school and then college? Then the cost of your children’s education needs to be included in your settlement. Don’t forget that the cost of education is far greater than just tuition. You also have to account for sports, tutoring, uniforms, and so much more.
4. Do Not Date – There are a number of reasons for avoiding beginning a new relationship at this vulnerable emotional stage. For one, there could be legal consequences if you begin a relationship before the divorce papers are signed. If you signed a prenuptial agreement with a cheating clause, dating before the divorce is finalized could result in losing spousal benefits.
5. Find an Experienced Attorney – A family law attorney should be someone you can trust to help you through some of the most difficult times in your life, as well as one of the people you want next to you to celebrate triumphs. Like your family physician who handles your families’ health concerns, a family law attorney can assist, guide, and offer advice whenever life throws a curveball your way.

The Betz Law Firm

The attorneys at The Betz Law Firm have effectively represented hundreds of clients in their divorce. In matters pertaining to family law, our firm understands that resolving issues through mediation and negotiation will yield better results for both parties. While we are a team of successful litigators, we will set a tone that minimizes animosity and promotes cooperation. It has been our experience that mediation is a preferred alternative to court trials and litigation.

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