At The Betz Law Firm, we understand that one of the most difficult parts of divorce is explaining it to your children. If you’re considering or already pursuing divorce mediation, you’re likely focused on keeping the process as peaceful and child-focused as possible.
Still, no matter how amicable your divorce may be, telling your kids about this life change is never easy. Here’s how to approach this delicate conversation with honesty, compassion, and the reassurance they’ll need.
Children, whether they’re preschoolers or teenagers, sense tension. If they’re left in the dark, they may imagine scenarios that are worse than reality. When parents sit down together to explain what’s happening, it sends a powerful message that:
✅ Both parents still love and care for them.
✅ It’s okay to ask questions.
✅ They’re not to blame.
Because you’ve chosen mediation, you’re already taking steps to reduce conflict — which directly benefits your children’s emotional health.
If possible, try to have this conversation as a united front. Even if you and your spouse are moving in different directions, preparing what you’ll say together helps avoid confusion or mixed messages.
Divorce can feel like their world is breaking apart. Provide stability by explaining what’s staying the same:
It’s healthy to tell them you and their other parent are no longer going to be married. However, it’s not healthy to share blame, money concerns, or details about disagreements.
Keep explanations simple, such as:
“We’ve decided that it’s better for us to live apart, but we both love you very much and that will never change.”
Because you’re choosing mediation instead of a heated courtroom battle, you can also explain that:
Mediation often results in more cooperative co-parenting, which research has shown to be better for children’s long-term well-being.
Your children may have immediate questions — or none at all. They might need time to process. Let them know:
At The Betz Law Firm, we’re committed to helping families navigate divorce with dignity and care. Our goal is to help you achieve a fair, child-focused outcome through mediation, reducing stress on you and your children.
If you’d like to learn more about how divorce mediation works in Missouri or how we can support your family through this transition, please contact us today for a confidential consultation.
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