In Missouri, many fathers believe that the family court system is biased against them when it comes to child custody and parenting time.
At The Betz Law Firm, we understand this concern, but we also know that Missouri law does not favor either parent based on gender. The courts are guided by what serves the child’s best interests, and judges increasingly recognize that children benefit from meaningful relationships with both parents.
If you are a father seeking equal parenting time, contact The Betz Law Firm for a free consultation.
Understanding Missouri’s Approach to Parenting Time
Missouri law encourages joint custody arrangements when appropriate. The state’s family courts start with the presumption that frequent, continuing, and meaningful contact with both parents serves a child’s best interests. However, equal parenting time isn’t automatically granted – it must be pursued through proper legal channels and strong advocacy.
7 Effective Strategies for Fathers Seeking Equal Parenting Time
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1. Be Actively Involved in Your Child’s Life
Courts look favorably upon parents who demonstrate consistent involvement in their children’s lives. Document your participation in:
- School activities and parent-teacher conferences
- Medical appointments
- Extracurricular activities
- Daily routines such as homework, meals, and bedtime
If you’ve been less involved due to work commitments or other circumstances, start increasing your involvement immediately. Courts consider recent behavior and willingness to prioritize your child’s needs.
3. Demonstrate Cooperative Co-Parenting
Missouri courts favor parents who show they can effectively co-parent. Document your efforts to:
- Communicate respectfully with your co-parent
- Support your child’s relationship with the other parent
- Avoid speaking negatively about the other parent
- Be flexible when schedule changes are needed
- Share important information about your child
Even if the other parent is uncooperative, maintain your composure and document your attempts to collaborate constructively.
5. Address Any Personal Issues
Courts consider each parent’s fitness when determining custody arrangements. Be proactive about addressing:
- Substance abuse issues (with documented treatment and recovery)
- Anger management concerns (with proof of counseling)
- Financial stability (showing an ability to provide for the child)
- Mental health challenges (with appropriate treatment)
- Criminal history (with evidence of rehabilitation)
Being forthright about past issues and showing concrete steps toward improvement can strengthen your position.
2. Create a Practical Parenting Plan
Develop a detailed, workable parenting plan that demonstrates how equal time would function. Your plan should address:
- A specific schedule (weekly, bi-weekly, or 2-2-3 rotations)
- Transportation arrangements
- Holiday and summer schedules
- Communication between parents
- Decision-making responsibilities
Ensure your proposed schedule accounts for your child’s school and activity commitments, work schedules, and proximity between households.
4. Create a Suitable Living Environment
Ensure your home is appropriate for your child’s needs:
- Provide a dedicated bedroom or sleeping space
- Stock age-appropriate food, clothing, and supplies
- Create space for homework, play, and relaxation
- Make your home safe and welcoming
- Live in an area that allows continuity in schooling if possible
Take photos of your child’s living space, and be prepared to describe how your home environment supports their development.
6. Gather Supporting Evidence
Build a compelling case with:
- Documentation of your parenting time and involvement
- Character references from teachers, coaches, neighbors, and family friends
- Evidence of your communication with the co-parent
- Records showing your attendance at the child’s important events
- Proof of child support payments (if applicable)
Text messages, emails, photographs, and calendars prove your involvement and parenting capacity.
7. Consider a Guardian ad Litem (GAL)
In contested custody cases, the court may appoint a Guardian ad Litem – an attorney representing your child’s best interests. The GAL will investigate and make recommendations to the court.
Build a positive relationship with the GAL by:
- Being honest and transparent
- Focusing on your child’s needs rather than your grievances with the other parent
- Demonstrating your parenting capabilities
- Providing requested information promptly
- Following their suggestions and guidance
How The Betz Law Firm Can Help
Securing equal parenting time requires strategic legal representation from attorneys who understand St. Louis family courts. At The Betz Law Firm, we specialize in helping fathers achieve fair custody arrangements by:
- Developing compelling legal strategies tailored to your specific situation
- Gathering and presenting persuasive evidence of your parenting abilities
- Negotiating effectively with opposing counsel
- Preparing you thoroughly for custody evaluations and court appearances
- Advocating passionately for your parental rights
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